Do you have a problem deciding what is right for you?

Have you ever been in a dilemma where you wonder what is right for you? Have you been in a situation where you do not know what to do or where you are heading?

How did you come to a conclusion? Did you rely on other people's opinions to make your decision? Did you go against your own needs just to fit in? Or did you go ahead and did what you felt was right then even when you were uncertain of the outcome?

If you did decide based on your own personal values and without being influenced by others, you should congratulate yourself for having used your personal power.

You may have made the right decision and that could have given you positive reinforcement. But what if the decision that you made did not turn out right? What was your response? Did you get angry, belittle yourself and vow that you will not do it again and leave your fate to chance and people? Or did you accept the outcome and used it as a feedback and found something useful?

Here are some suggestions to help you decide what is right for you and what you should do when you don't know what to do?

• Think of the end result.

Albert Einstein and Thomas Edison knew what they wanted and even when they found many ways that didn't work, they kept doing until they succeeded.

Know for certain what is the end result that you want. Right thinking produces right actions. When you know what you want, you will persist in spite of the initial lack of progress.

• Take action.

You can think and think all day long on. You can listen to many opinions and suggestions. But if you don't take action, you don't get any result and you wouldn't know the outcome. The best way to determine for sure if something works is to take action.

• Don't be afraid to be wrong.

Most of the time you know what to do but you are afraid. Take risks and make mistakes. What's the worst thing that can happen if you do it? What's the best that will come out from your action? As Charlie T Jones said, "Don't worry about having to make a right decision. Make it and then work to make it right."

• Educate yourself.

Continue to feed your mind with useful information. It opens your mind to more options. When you have plenty of options, you can make better choices and do what is right and at the right time.

• It's alright if you don't "fit in"

You shouldn't try to fit in and make people happy. What is right for others doesn't mean it's right for you too. You can't please everyone. When it comes to determining your own life, you shouldn't allow others to do it for you. People are more interested in themselves and their needs. There are times when you have to be selfish and live your life based on your own values.

• Trust your intuition.

In order to hear, you must listen. And to enable you to listen to the voice within, you must learn to relax and be still. All the answers that you need are within. You have to learn to trust them.

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