What do you want? Is it something physical, immaterial or your personal growth?

Human beings want to have, feel and do so many things. But most don't achieve them. Until they realize that they are the ones who have sabotaged themselves, they will continue to experience disappointments in life.

These people are mostly skeptics and cynics. They think that working on their personal growths are a waste of time. They don't believe in many things that involve efforts. They rely on luck without putting much work in it. They try something they have done before once or twice and gave up when they get the same frustrating results.

They think they other people deserve more than they do because the other person is smarter, luckier or gifted. These people are also the ones who are envious, have a lot of anger toward others, are unforgiving and aren't accountable.

And if by chance they stumble upon some fortunes, they will lose them not long after. Some will lose their friends and families. The worst is that they surrender their values.

Their lives will improve if only they could see that their thoughts, perceptions and attitudes are the barriers that are holding them back from getting what they desire for or getting more of what they already have.

If you happen to be one of these people who want things but can't achieve them, you can change yourself and go through a different experience.

• First of all, accept that you are responsible and decide that you must change. Then focus on some new habits and attitudes that you should develop. Let go off your guilt and anger. Forgive yourself and people whom you think have harmed you.

• Can you accept that it's your reaction to them that's causing the hurt? Even if they had caused you pain, why hang on to it? Whatever it was, it is over and done with. Nothing you or anybody can do to change the past. From now on, assume that people have positive intent. Look and find the positive.

• Let go off your ego and pride. Ask for forgiveness or apologize for your mistakes. Ask for help. Go and look out for people who know what you don't and learn from them. Other people are willing to share their knowledge and experiences if you ask. If one doesn't, there's always another who does. Don't stick with the same group of people who have not helped you up or who have watched you remain where you were.

• Listen carefully to your inner voices and pay attention to the mental pictures that you have been seeing in your mind. Fight those that have made you depressed, anxious, angry and guilty.

• You can override those unpleasant memories and voices by planting new and positive affirmations and images. You have to consciously do it until it becomes automatic. The Silva Method shows you how.

• See yourself in a new light. Look at yourself as someone who is worthy, loving and an achiever. When you can see it, you can feel it. When you become a better person inside, you will act that way on the outside. You will then inevitably attract more good from people and situations. Then you will begin to notice that everything around you is better than what it was.

When your thoughts are right, you will become right. It becomes easier to reach your aspirations, whether physical or immaterial.

The best thing that you will experience is not in the things that you have accumulated but a mind that is at peace. Maybe, you will realize that this is actually what you want most.

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