How to build trust.

When someone trust you, she believes in you and rely on you for your goodness, strengths and abilities. When she has faith in you, she accepts you without needing evidence or investigation on what you say or do.

How do you build trust in any kind of relationship?

• Become an honest and truthful person.

Lies and deceit include misleading or giving wrong information. When a person finds out that she has been deceived, the confidence and faith in you is gone.

To become a person of integrity, avoid making judgments and check out your sources. Avoid gossips and spreading rumors.

• Listen to what others have to say. Communicate effectively.

At times a person just want to find a sympathetic ear and talk to someone. She wants to pour out her hurt or anger. You will become a trusted friend when you are willing to listen attentively and show your empathy.

By communicating, you create a healthy space in your relationships. Sharing thoughts and emotions improve your understandings toward one another. Barriers and misunderstandings are sometimes created because of the lack of communication.

• Do what you say you will do. Keep to your words.

One of the ways to build the kind of faith in your relationship is to keep to your words and promises. Your actions must match your talk.

• Show genuine interests in others and learn to empathize.

You can fake your interest but you will not be able to sustain it for long. Sooner or later she will find the truth. Even if it is not obvious, your conscience and anxiety about being found out will cause her to sense it.

Learn to feel compassionate, empathetic and increase your sensitivity to her feelings and thoughts.

• Respect yourself and others.

You can show your respect by being loyal to her in her absence. When she shares her secret, you are given the responsibility to keep it in confidence. She believes in you and to keep it that way, avoid betraying her.

You advocate self-respect by being true to yourself. You avoid doing things that you know are wrong and stick to your personal and family values.

• Trust yourself.

You will lead a happier life if you learn to believe in yourself and your intuitions. The possibility of being cheated is ever present. But the chances are lessened if you develop an inner knowing that you will be guided to the truth.

Some people lie to get out of difficult situations. Others do it to avoid embarrassments. There are also people who cheat or lie because they have made it a habit. They are either unaware or not bothered by the effect of their deceit and lies.

If you find yourself in a situation where you have been lied to, you can make a decision. You can forgive, leave the past and feelings behind and give him a chance to correct and change.

Or you can get out of the situation, learn from the experience and convince yourself that you are going to get through and make it.

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