Building Trust in Relationships

Trust is very important and is the foundation in any kind of relationship. If you are a trustworthy person, you will feel loved and are able to exert your influence and gain cooperation. The attributes of a trustworthy person include honesty, dependable and accountable.

You have to earn it to gain the confidence and faith from your spouse, children, employees, coworkers, and friends. If ever you betray the trust especially in marriage, you have to double or triple your efforts to rebuild.

How to Build Trust in Relationships

Be Truthful

Telling lies, making up stories and misleading certainly don't make you an honest person. When a person finds out that you are deceitful and dishonest, you lose your integrity. So be truthful in your dealings and interactions. Don't exaggerate, lie and tell tales.

Become an Attentive Listener

One of the ways to build trust in a relationship is to listen attentively when someone is speaking. When you listen to your spouse with your ears and eyes, you are showing empathy. When you pay attention while your child, client, friend or worker is talking, she will know that you have her needs in mind instead of yours.

Do Not Betray

One of the surest ways to lose trust in relationships is to betray. When someone confides in you and tells a secret, she knows she can count on you. Keep that secret in confidence. Not only will you earn her trust, you will also gain respect.

Keep Your Words

One of the ways people have faith in you is when you keep your words and promises. Don't disappoint and let people down by making empty promises especially to your children. If you say that you will do something, do it.

How to Rebuild Marital Trust

If you find yourself in a situation where you have been let down and betrayed, make a decision. You can forgive, leave the past behind and give him a chance to correct and change. Or you can get out of the situation, learn from the experience and convince yourself that it's not going to happen again.

If you decide to forgive, remove all your doubts and suspicions. Really give it another try and start anew. If you do have even an inkling of doubt, you haven't really got it off your system. If you continue to have misgivings about his loyalty, you are going to attract more of it into your life and it may happen again.

Spend more time together communicating and sharing emotions. But don't bring out the past and talk about your hurt and disappointment. Another way is to recall and focus pleasant experiences that you have done together.

If you find it really difficult to rebuild the broken trust, seek help from a marriage counselor.

Points to Ponder

One very important thing to remember is that you must have the qualities that you seek in a person. So be trustworthy and you will attract the people who are like you.

Whenever you hear yourself say that you don't trust someone, think about it. What has she or he done to deserve the mistrust. Sometimes, because of your jealousy or an awful experience, you tend to generalize everyone. So, be reasonable.

One of the ways to avoid being betrayed is to choose the right partner and friends. Study and watch people's behavior before you decide to commit. Then trust yourself and have faith in your judgment and decision.

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