Be Still. Relax.
Listen To Your Self-Talk.

Quiet your mind. Can you hear your self-talk? What is it urging you to do? What is the voice within trying to tell you?

Your self-talk are what you say to yourself mentally. The inner voice is usually out of your consciousness and spoken so low that you can't hear it.

If you pause, listen and become aware, you will catch your talks saying negative things about you.

As you listen deeper, you will hear the monologues hurling negative and critical messages.

The negative self-talks control your emotions moment to moment. If you were to look further, you may realize that your inner critic originated from what someone in the past have labeled you.

Your inner voice has a positive intention of protecting you and tries to stop you from taking any risk. It ultimately also stops your creative juices flowing.

You have to realize that your relentless critical voice becomes affirmations and they affect your self-esteem, self-image, personality and behavior negatively.

• Are the things you are saying to yourself true?

Each time you notice yourself saying something negative, stop it. Have a conversation with your inner voice.

Ask whether it is true. Is it your habitual pattern of thinking or expressing yourself?

Let your inner voice work on more answers until it reaches a point where you start to doubt them. Then give yourself a new empowering message.

• Write down what you are hearing.

By writing down what you are hearing, you are able to notice some clues. It could lead you to become aware on how you are describing your feelings and experiences.

You may discover that what is stopping you from putting your best effort is the voice in your consciousness telling you that it is not worth it. What is it trying to show you that you are not noticing?

You will also notice the language that you are using to describe your state of mind. Your words have the power to affect your life. With that knowledge, you can word them differently and change the dialogs.

• Notice the patterns and find the triggers.

How do you talk to yourself at each different times of your day? Make a conscious effort to stop yourself at intervals to listen to your self-talks. Observe the inner talks conveying the messages.

When does it appear? Does it happen each time you are in a different situation or with new people? Or do you hear yourself being self-critical when things do not seem to work out?

Find the triggers as soon as you notice a critical voice is happening. Figure it out and trace the root of it.

You may uncover a belief attached to it. You may even identify the person who has conditioned and programmed your mind to accept the critical opinion.

You have to stand up and challenge your critical voices if you decide to make a positive change in your life. A change that enhances your self-image and self-esteem and overall performance.

What you say in the privacy of your own mind is far more important than what anyone else says to you.

You take control by consciously substituting positive self-talks to the inner critics especially at times of desperation.

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