"Romance is the first stage in love's journey." - Deepak Chopra

Romance is associated with emotion of intense yearning, longing and fantasies.

It happens when one person gets really smitten and brings an explosive feeling of melting and merging with the other person.

This intense love affair can blind the lovers from reality and will make them go through barriers and boundaries. Couples get lovesick when separated and yearn to be together.

When people fall madly in love with each other, they crave for the single touch and agonize the moment of separation. It is not the things that he should do for her that matters but the desire to be together.

What happens after the attraction, infatuation, courtship and intimacy wither?

This intimate relationship seems to last briefly. It grows weaker when familiarity and closeness moves in. And it may lose its luster after marriage.

As you get to know each other and live together, it is difficult to have the same intense desire for one another. You will start to notice his flaws because you are now facing reality.

In romantic novel, lovers usually do not end up together. And because of that the yearning and intense love for each other remains.

In the real world, many women wish that the romances in their lives were kept alive. They wish that their lovers were more romantic. And they blame their partners for not knowing how to show affection.

People interpret romance differently. To them doing things like having a candle light dinner is romantic.

But does the desirable state of emotion and entrancing charm exist? You can still feel empty and lonely in the midst of it.

What is more important is to keep the relationship blissful. The explosive feelings and yearnings would have already disappeared.

You can now nurture your relationship and transform it to empower you and to keep the love alive.

1. Love yourself and open your heart to love others.
2. Practice kind acts and gestures to show that you care and appreciate.
3. Develop understanding and offer warmth and closeness.
4. Love your partner unconditionally for what he is.
5. Think loving thoughts.

It is important to develop awareness and love yourself. Otherwise there will exist a void within you and you will keep hoping love will enter your life.

And you will jump from one love affair to another because you feel incomplete and lonely.

Whether you choose to develop your relationship or go separate ways after the end of a romantic experience, you will learn and grow from it.

Every emotion and life experience offer lessons and will help you become better.

Read 101 Romance by Barbara De Angelis for inspiration to a deeper level.

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