About Regret

There must be at least one thing you regret that you did or didn't do, have said or kept silent. If you have made a serious mistake or negligence, you might even feel disgusted and remorseful. It is normal to feel sorry or apologetic and repent. But learn from it and then push it very far away from your mind.

Whatever has happened took place in the past. Don't allow the memory to remain etched in your mind. It's painful to live in the past when you actually should live and make the best of the present. If this feeling of being upset about your past action or inaction is not dealt with, you will keep on feeling guilty, sad and hurt.

How to Overcome Regret.

Forgive.

Forgive yourself for your foolishness. If you were mature enough, you would have acted more responsibly. Now that you are aware of your past mistake, promise yourself that you won't repeat them. When you stop making the same error, it shows that you are really sorry and ready to change. If you have done wrong toward others or hurt them, apologize and say sorry.

Ask yourself questions.

If you are serious about overcoming your pang of guilt, anger and shame, go through the exercise of asking yourself tough and personal questions. When you ask your inner self for guidance and really listen, it will reveal the truth to you. The truth will set you free.

Change your mind.

Your feelings over your wrong acts are likely exaggerated by the pictures that you created in your mind. You keep punishing yourself by repeatedly seeing the images and going back there. The more you entertain them, the greater you dislike yourself.

You have control over what's showing up in your mind. The only reason that it's not working for you is because you are not using it to your advantage. You can change your mind by changing your mental pictures to override the old pattern of thought.

Do something good.

Do many good things to yourself and to others. Do it because you want to feel good, not because you want to atone for your misdeeds. Not once but as often as you can. Your action will help you change your focus of attention and make you feel worthy.