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5. What book should I read to be happier?

Self help books are great and all, but the book that makes us happiest is the book that helps us escape a little from time to time. Whether you love romance novels, steamy harlequin books, non-fiction, biographies, paranormal fantasy, or whatever floats your boat – pick it up. If you love self help, go for it, but don’t take anyone’s advice without thinking about how you feel about it first.

4. Why are sick people so happy?

Many terminally ill people are some of the happiest people I know. “Why?? You’re dying!,” people often think when they see them. The reality is, though, that knowing you’re going to die means that nothing else really matters. That fight you had with your spouse, your kid disrespecting you, that dry cleaner who screwed up your blouse, that payment you’re late on. Nothing matters because you’re not going to be around to deal with it. So then your focus goes to, “What can I do right now to make this the best time for everyone around me in the time that I have left?” There is no point reflecting on the bad, because the worst has already happened. It still sucks, it’s still hard, and they have bad days. But they understand that they are given a chance many people don’t have – to do what makes you happy, the consequences be damned.

3. Does money buy happiness?

Absolutely. For some people, money and gifts and material goods could be the way they show their love (one of the love languages). For others, money buys comfort, security, and a promise for a stable future or the ability to do something that they couldn’t do without money. Essentially what money buys is life – you can do what you want when you have extra money lying around, and you don’t have to worry about what comes when you’ve got money in the bank to help you deal with it.

2. Is it OK to feel negative emotions?

Of course it is. Being happy doesn’t mean that you don’t feel any other range of emotions. You can’t smile at a funeral! (Unless you really hated the person.) Feeling sadness, anger, jealousy, fear, etc. are all part of the human experience. The thing with happiness is that you give yourself grace to feel all those other things, and then you move back to happiness when the time comes. You can’t live in that negative space and live a happy life.

1. What is the fastest way to get happy?

That’s probably the most asked question we get as “happiness coaches.” The reality is, though, that we don’t know. Because everyone is so different, and our idea of happiness may not be yours. What we do know is that the fastest way to get happy is to decide that you want to be happy, and that you want to work for it. Happiness is not just handed to you – you have to seek it out.