Mothers Roles

"Men are what their mothers made them." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Mothers seem to have forceful influence over their children. They are responsible in molding the characters and morals of their offspring.

Moms devote their full strength and surrender all other interests, at times including their husbands, because their lives evolve around their infants. When moms show models of excellence, they shape their kids to grow up competent and responsible. There exist a revered relationship between moms, sons and daughters that is hard to explain.

Mothers seem to overly protect their kids. At an early age young boys and girls are much impressed from the attention received. The gentle touches make them feel safe and loved. Their moms are everything to them, the one that matter most of all and the persons to count on.

Young daughters dread the thoughts of becoming like their moms though they love them dearly. And these older women wish that their daughters would grow up getting and becoming more than they have ever achieved. As these children's age progress, imposing too many restrictions and prying into their affairs can cause contempt. Natural growth, development and learning are hampered when children are not given the opportunities to experience life.

"The child in the decisive first years of his life, has the experience of his mother, as an all-enveloping, protective, nourishing power. Mother is food; she is love; she is warmth; she is earth. To be loved by her means to be alive, to be rooted, to be at home." - Erich Fromm

How to Understand Your Mom Better

Understand her feelings

When you move out, she is left alone. She may sense a feeling of loss where you used to dominate her life and every breath. Understand that no matter how you have aged, it is her nature to keep on watching you. Love her even though you feel that she still dominates your adult life.

Spend time with her

You may be busy with your own family and career but you have to allow time for her. Frequent your visits especially if she is living alone. Take the time to communicate and nurture your relationship. There may not be many visits left.

Forgive her

If your heart was wounded and trampled during your childhood, forgive her. You are now the master of your own destiny. You know what is right or wrong and you can break free from your past.

If you are a mom, realize that the time will come when you have to stop waiting on them. Set them free to make their own decisions and choose their own lives. You have watched them enough and given your whole mind to shape them. Let them grow and become the unique person that they aspire to achieve. And if you have given them the trust, value and love, rest assured that they will continue to love you.

Here is a poem for every mom to ponder

"Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love, but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward, nor tarries with yesterday."

- Kahlil Gibran -