Argh...Loneliness, That Dreadful Feeling!

Loneliness is associated with the feeling of isolation or separation when a person feels that she has no friend or companion. Sadness and nostalgia are common feelings accompanying it.

The lack of activity and being ignored by others can really frighten a person. So she gets involved in meaningless activities and relationships so as not to feel separate. She will do so much to be among others regardless of the type of companion she is associating with.

How can you be alone and yet not lonely.

• Do something.

One of the reasons you feel lonely is because you are bored. If you realize how short life is, you will do everything to live your dream.

You can choose to connect with the people that are important in your life. You can make use of the time to learn all that you can learn. You can decide to push yourself in your pursuit of the things you want and the person you want to become.

• Learn to love yourself.

Without self-love, you will feel a sense of isolation even in the presence of others. You need to have a deep communion with yourself to avoid the sense of lost. You need to have the courage to learn, accept and be kind to yourself.

• Open up to others but count on yourself.

Open up and share your thoughts and feelings with others. But you must realize the action does not make you less lonely. You must count on yourself as your best friend.

You need friends, families and loved ones around you but you have to do some things alone.

Your activities in a group can keep you busy but at times you may neglect to commit to your deeper sense of self. Great accomplishment and new path require some time alone.

• Enjoy solitude.

You are frightened of being alone because you have not learned to enjoy your solitude. You need to build the courage to avoid the feeling of terror.

Once you get used to it, you will welcome a certain amount of solitary confinement each day.

During those times when you are away from the company of others, your self-awareness will increase.

Alone time gives you the opportunity to reflect, explore and discover what is happening in your life and what has happened. This is the time to work on your personal growth and create changes that will help you become better.

Your quietest hour will provide you with the answers to the questions that you have been seeking. Solitude allows you to get acquainted with yourself.

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