Argh...Loneliness, that Miserable Feeling

Loneliness is associated with the feeling of isolation or separation. Feeling sad, dejected and melancholy are common emotions accompanying it.

Many people experience feeling alone every now and then. Some people go through it even in the presence of their friends, family members and partners.

But when sadness, emptiness and misery are present all the time it will make you feel really lonely. It's like you are at a different place, so alone and isolated from everyone else and nobody seems to care about your existence. And when you stop caring and being concerned about your wellbeing and do nothing to overcome the despondent feeling you can get into a state of depression. This is a situation you must avoid.

One of the reasons for feeling lonely and forlorn is because of the loss of a loved one. It's human nature to grieve. But don't take too long. Life is short. Sooner or later it's your turn to leave this lovely earth. Meanwhile, do something fruitful in the remaining years of your life.

Reconnect with the people that are important in your life like your nuclear family and friends. You can make use of your time to further your education or take up an interesting hobby.

It's disheartening when your marriage isn't working. Where have the romance and love gone? Some people, when they can't bear with the isolation, look out for an avenue to release their frustrations.

It's good if the paths they take are healthy and beneficial. It doesn't always work this way. People usually let go by doing something that will make them feel good temporarily but regret it later. And this will make them feel more depressed.

If you are in this situation, communicate with your spouse. If it's not possible, seek professional help. At the same time, do things that show that you care for your marriage and your partner. If you have done your all and your best and things still don't work out, maybe you should consider whether you still want in or out of it. Sometimes we have to be a little selfish and care about our own happiness.

Unless you are living in a jungle or in a cave away from human existence, there are people everywhere. Why then do you feel lonely and cut off? The most likeable reason is you don't like yourself. Without self love, you will feel a sense of detachment even in the presence of others.

Since you are all by yourself most of the time, why not do some self evaluation. Sit quietly, take a few deep breaths and observe your thoughts and mental chatter. Find out what is going on inside your head that is causing you to feel the loneliness.

Open up and share your thoughts and feelings with others. It's good to talk and let go of those bottled up emotions. Sometimes people don't approach you because you're so aloof and put up the unfriendly stance. Mix around and get to know people. Soon you'll find yourself getting involved in activities that keep you busy.

If you find yourself spending a lot of your time by yourself, learn to enjoy solitude. Once you get used to it, you'll enjoy it. Alone time is a good opportunity for self discovery.

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