Improving your listening skill will improve your human relation.

You must first develop your listening skill if you want to become an effective communicator and have the power to influence.

Listening is a way to learn about your own needs, people and life. Acquiring listening skill takes practice, discipline and patience.

When you listen to your conscience, you gain insights and ideas to correct your course and improve your life.

When you listen to others, you get strategies and feedback. You will have a better understanding about people and their motivations.

People want so much to feel important, valued an appreciated. Not many people are willing to really listen.

• The ability to hear the language pattern.

When you really listen, you will observe that she is trying to plead, attack or assert something from her conversations.

Mind reading statements will also appear. Her statements will let you see how she evaluates, what are her beliefs and values and so on.

• The actual meaning the person is trying to convey.

People vocalize only the surface statements from what lies in their deeper structure.

When she says that she is thinking about doing something, she may already have a complete mental picture.

If you allow her to continue talking, you will get the complete picture and meaning that she is trying to convey.

She may either directly let you know or you can pick up from the repeated words or phrases that she uses.

• To be able to feel what the other person is experiencing deep inside.

Other than using your ears, use your eyes and your heart to listen.

Try to enter her frame of mind as she relates and transforms her experiences.

When you listen with your eyes you give her the full attention that she craves for.

Listening with your heart will develop your understanding about her and even your own reality.

At times you do not have to say anything. Listening to her make her feel that she counts.

• Avoid judging and the need to reply.

When you allow her to say her point of view, you will see that she sees things differently from your own thinking.

You will gain the trust from her by respecting her and paying attention.

Sometimes, people just want to talk to someone and not actually seeking for any advice. If you probe, she might withdraw and not have the confidence in you.

• Understanding the nonverbal messages.

According to a study, words only account for 10% of the message being delivered.

Voice tones, vocal varieties, breathing and micro-color changes in the face carry more messages.

Learn to observe the body language, the tone of voice and the nonverbal messages.

30% of communication come from the sound and the tones and 60% from the body language.

When you continue to actively listen, you are training yourself to strengthen your listening skill.

Take time to listen to your conscience, to others and to the sounds of nature. All of these will promote your personal growth.

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