"Exaggerated sensitiveness is an expression of the feeling of inferiority." - Alfred Adler

You know that you have an inferiority issue to handle if you keep seeing and thinking that other people are better than you in every way. You compare yourself. You feel inadequate and know that you will never match their abilities, toys, looks, traits, etc.

You think that people are making fun of you. You sense that others do not respect you.

Of course there are people around you who are more successful. But, that's not because you are not good enough. The fact is that they are doing things that you don't. There are also those who look better, have bigger boobs and are taller or more attractive.

But why focus on what the other person has? Look at what you have instead of what you don't. You might not have noticed your positive qualities because you were busy looking at other people. Once you are aware of your own uniqueness, you are able to enhance yourself.

Tips to overcome your feeling of inferiority.

• Make the decision to change.

Your view about yourself was created in your mind. In order to change your feeling of inadequacy and lack, you need to change the way you think and see yourself in your mind's eye.

You need to visualize yourself as a different person because what you visualize is what you become. Create in your mind a confident and attractive image.

• Believe in yourself.

Never mind what others have told you. You don't have to agree and make them yours. One of the ways to break them apart is to question their validity.

List down those limiting beliefs that have made you feel inferior and incompetent. Ask yourself if they are true. When you get the answers, question yourself further until you are convinced that you are more than you have set yourself to believe.

• Fight your timidity.

Conquer your fears of making mistakes and looking stupid. Voice out your opinions. You don't need anyone's approval. Do what you think is best for you and your personal growth.

The more you meet your fear head on, the better you become and your self-confidence will increase. Look up at your own worth and respect yourself if you wish to gain it from others. Your self-esteem will surely improve.

• Change your posture and work on your appearance.

How you dress will affect how you feel. Dress accordingly so that you can move around with ease and avoid any feeling of discomfort.

Watch your posture and body language. Your emotions will catch up with your actions. People will respond to you according to how you express yourself.

• Find someone to model.

You developed the inferiority complex through conditioning and your upbringing. You need to find different models and influences to overcome your weakness.

Instead of envying what the other person has, find out how she acquires the qualities that you wish to adopt. Learn from her and model her strategies and beliefs.

Create better circle of friends and choose a different environment. Move away from the people who ridicule you and that are not helping you overcome your weakness.

• Acquire better knowledge and skills.

Each day is about relating and interacting with people, facing challenges and overcoming them. If you keep on feeling inferior about your abilities to handle them, your fears will build up.

You can improve your communication skill and ability to influence by educating yourself and practicing the skills. Feed your mind with new and positive inputs on a daily basis.

• Take notes.

Take notes of your daily interactions, attitudes and behavior. Reflect at the end of the day and learn from them. This will enable you to see your progress and avoid repeating mistakes. Focus on what you wish to accomplish.

• Using hypnosis.

Hypnosis is a great tool to get rid of undesirable habits and to reprogram your mind to work for you. If will power doesn't work for you, try this as an alternative.

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