People who have inferiority complex keep seeing and thinking that other people are better than them in every way. They make comparisons.
They think that they are not attractive, tall, smart, etc. compared to others. They see flaws in themselves even if there aren't any. They assume that people don't notice them because of what they are lacking. Sometimes they think that people are making fun of them.
So these people usually compete to stay at par with those whom they think are superior or better than them. But even when they do reach the level that they should feel proud of, they still feel that they aren't at the same level.
Some of them turn spiteful or arrogant. Some people intimidate others. These behaviors are to compensate for their insecurity and low self esteem. They make themselves feel important because they crave for attention. Those who have physical defects or are at a disadvantage situation may become timid and shy.
Admit that you have the problem. Don't try to hide and give excuses. If you keep comparing yourself to others and think that people are bigger, better, smarter, etc. compared to you, you do have the problem.
Your view about yourself was created in your mind. In order to change your feeling of inadequacy and lack, change the way you think and see yourself in your mind's eye. Visualize yourself as a confident person because what you visualize is what you become. Create in your mind the image that you want to have.
Don't compare but observe. Observe and watch how confident and assured people behave. See how they conduct themselves in the company of people. Watch how they move, speak and how they use their body language. Observe also how people respond to these people. You can learn a lot using this method.
Never mind what others have told you. You don't have to agree and make them yours. One of the ways to break apart your limiting beliefs is to question the truth in it. List down those limiting beliefs that have made you feel inferior and incomplete. Ask yourself if they are true. When you get the answers, question yourself further until you are convinced that you are more than you have set yourself to believe.
Conquer your fears of making mistakes and looking stupid. When the opportunity arises, show your mettle by voicing out your opinion, offering suggestions and solutions. The more you meet your fear head on, the better you become and your self confidence will increase. Look up at your own worth and respect yourself if you wish to gain it from others. Your self esteem will surely improve.
How you dress will affect how you feel. Dress accordingly so that you can move around with ease and avoid any feeling of discomfort. Keep yourself fit, toned and healthy. Watch your posture, manners and body language. Your emotions will catch up with your actions. People will respond to you according to how you express yourself.
You developed the inferiority complex through conditioning and your upbringing. Find different role models to overcome your weakness. Instead of envying what the other person has, find out how she acquires the qualities that you wish to adopt. Learn from her and model her strategies and beliefs. Create better circle of friends and choose a different environment. Move away from the people who ridicule you and that are not helping you overcome your weakness.
If you have more knowledge and better skills, people will seek you for advice, opinions and information. Don't try to compete but to create. Do it because you want to become more proficient so that you can advance in life but not to be at par with anybody.
Take notes of your daily interactions, attitudes and behavior. Reflect at the end of the day and learn from them. This will enable you to understand yourself better, adjust and make improvement.
Your past mental conditioning brought about from upbringing, past influences and environment are imprinted inside your brain. It takes a lot of discipline and efforts to overwrite them. An easier and faster method to reprogram your past conditioning and overcome inferiority is to use subliminal messages. What it does is send positive affirmations direct to the subconscious mind, bypassing the more critical conscious mind.
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