How to Overcome Jealousy

Help with Jealousy - How to Overcome Jealousy

Jealousy is an emotion of fear of losing someone you love or care about to someone else. It is an unpleasant feeling because it comprises of doubt, distrust and suspicion of betrayal.

There are several possible causes of jealousy. Having been betrayed and left with a severe broken heart is one of the reasons. Being in a relationship with a partner who won't stop talking about his ex lover can cause uncertainty. Being married to a partner with roving eyes or have a history of flings and affairs can make you feel insecure and fearful. Thinking that you are incomplete, unpretty or aren't good enough is another reason for being jealous.


Jealousy may cause you to become possessive and domineering. It will suffocate the relationship and lead to suspicions and arguments which may finally result in a break up or divorce. And extreme jealousy can lead to losing self control and judgment.


How to Overcome Jealousy - Recognize the Signs

  1. Lurking on your partner's movements


  2. Checking his activities too often


  3. Spying on his telephone calls, messages and e mails


  4. Going through his personal belongings including not allowing him personal space


  5. Feeling suspicious or paranoid about his whereabouts and who he is spending his time with


  6. Feeling insecure when he speaks about another person whom you feel threatened


  7. Feeling annoyed when he makes a pass or looks at other women


  8. Consistent fear of losing your partner

How to Overcome Jealousy and Insecurity

Reflect On It

Give yourself time to really think through and assess your fear. Has this feeling of being jealous happened in your previous relationship? Maybe, a bad experience resulted in your present thinking. If it is, you must change your thoughts and beliefs.


Improve Your Low Self Image

How are you seeing yourself? Do you picture yourself as a person who is imperfect and unattractive? Do you see that other people are better looking than you? That picture must change. If you do not love your body, who would?


With modern technology, fitness centers and products available, you can change the way you look. A change in your wardrobe would help too. But the most important thing to do is to change that image in your mind. Not the one you see in the mirror.


Build Your Self Esteem

As long as you feel unworthy, inadequate and incomplete, you will continue to feel insecure. You must acknowledge your own self worth and believe in your strengths and abilities.


Overcome your inferiority by releasing your past hurt, disappointments, and feeling of abandonment. You can rebuild it one day at a time by taking one action and then another. Positive affirmations and visualization are tools that you can use to improve your self esteem.


Learn to Trust

First of all, trust yourself. Believe that you have made the right decision in choosing your partner or spouse. Trust him and you will exude a positive energy that begets trust.


Communicate with Each Other

Talk about love, dreams and goals to keep the relationship alive and to build trust. And listen attentively to show that you are hearing what are being said.


Value the Relationship

While you are in a relationship, enjoy and value it. There is a possibility that your partner may cheat on you. But what if he is as faithful as you are and want as much to see that the relationship works? Isn't it a waste of your time and energy which you may regret if the relationship ends?


Don't Make it a Self Fulfilling Prophecy

You attract into your life what you expect. So, be careful with your thoughts and emotions. If you feel that he is going to cheat on you, don't be surprised when he does.


If you want your relationship to succeed, expect to experience good things such as a fulfilling relationship.


If you are still unable to overcome your problem after you have tried all the tips on how to overcome jealousy mentioned above, the Stop Jealousy Hypnosis may help.




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