Why Do People Hate

Perhaps you can find one or several reasons to hate someone. Or you may have forgotten what have caused you to despise her but you are still clinging to the hatred so stubbornly.

Your ego, selective memory, mental habits and pride will not let go of your resentment.

When you allow the person you abhor to occupy your mind and your thoughts the animosity is going to get deeper. You keep scheming ways to seek revenge, get even or destroy her. Your revulsion if left uncontrolled can lead to violence and disaster.

What are the probable causes of hatred?

It depends on who and what you hate. A jilted lover has her reasons to develop an extreme dislike for her ex. An adult who was abandoned by one of her parents or both during childhood will likely detest her parent. Prejudice, intolerance, prejudgments are some of the other reasons for abhorrence. Having no sense of purpose and constant disappointments can make someone hates her life.

Loathing causes emotional and mental suffering. Decide to forgive and allow yourself to let the memories and bad feelings go. Once you forgive, you are letting go of all the pains attached to the emotion. You are no longer chained to the past. You are now free to start anew. Your mind and spirit will break free from separateness and boundaries and in turn attract peace. You are ready to fill your mind with something healthy and beneficial.

Your animosity will attract unhappiness in your life. Think about your life right now and put your attention to your esteem and self worth. See the beauty in yourself and others. Don't try to change people to suit your needs. Change your attitude instead. Whatever people do or did are their prerogatives. You don't have to take things personally. Your energy is best channeled on make life changes.

Before you are tempted to get judgmental, put yourself in her shoes. She may have her own reasons for doing what she did. Her past experiences or her unconscious destructive emotions could have triggered and influenced her behavior. Whatever she does that you dislike is her prerogative. You do not have to get involved in her melodrama.

The most damaging of all is self hatred or self loathing. Having gone through an abusive and traumatic childhood, being ostracize and criticized are some of the causes. In order to heal yourself, you must let go and forgive the people who have caused you so much pain. And you must also forgive yourself. Release the guilt and remorse. You can't experience happiness if you keep on feeling unworthy.

Sit still or lie down and relax your body and mind. Take in several deep breaths through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Be still and listen to the voices within. You might be hearing, seeing or feeling something from your past. Don't argue or fight it. Probably it'll make you cry.

Now tell yourself that you are letting the past go. You are forgiving everyone including yourself. And tell yourself that the past is over and you are allowing yourself to release everything from this moment.

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