Yes, that's right. Happiness is a choice.

Happiness is also associated with freedom from negative thoughts like fear, resentment, self-pity and low self-esteem.

Many people find bliss and joy elusive. They see it in others but are unable to identify it within themselves.

If you are one of them, realize that feeling glad and cheerful is a choice. You can choose to feel fortunate anytime you wish.

How do you find or experience joy?

• Decision.

It takes a decision and a resolve. It is about maintaining a positive attitude and staying optimistic no matter what happens in your life.

• Controlling and managing thoughts.

Your state of mind and thoughts affect the way you interpret what is happening in your external world.

You can consciously draw out positive and pleasant memories and recreate and relive events that bring you joy.

It helps to handle your disappointment, the failures and misfortunes in your life.

When you are able to handle and manage your thoughts, you will have control over your emotions. Remember that thoughts are things and all the things in one's life have a thought that precedes them.

• Adjust your expectations. Set realistic standards.

If you are preoccupied about how a certain thing has to happen or how a person has to behave to make you feel positive you will most likely feel frustrated with the outcome.

This is because you are allowing others and circumstance to dictate how and when you can experience a state of joy.

Most people are more concerned about themselves than trying to please you or bolster your ego.

Assume that people have positive intentions and do not mean to damage your ego and esteem.

Interpret loss and unfortunate event as an experience that will provide lessons and make you stronger.

Look out for the good in people. Focus on the moments that you enjoy and contribute to your sense of well being.

• Find pleasure in your activities and chores.

Get involved and find enjoyment in your activities and chores no matter how mundane they are.

Set personal and definite goals that will give you more life, growth, accomplishment and a sense of purpose.

• Adopt the feeling of gratitude.

Be grateful for being alive and well. Appreciate and feel blessed with your relationships and families.

Show and express your appreciation with a smile, kind words and gestures.

Appreciation and gratitude brings joy and contentment.

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