Getting Over a Break Up

Getting over a break up and trying to heal a broken heart will take time. Even if it's not the first time, it still hurts when a relationship ends. It's especially heart breaking if it was a long term relationship.

A break up makes a person lose her strength and her self esteem. It's tough to go on with life when you suddenly feel unloved, alone and single again. You will yearn for the love you have lost. You will feel lonely and deserted. You grieve and mourn. You have no motivation and energy to move on.

Here are few tips and advice to help you deal with a break up. Hopefully, it will speed the healing of your broken heart.

Getting Over a Break Up No. 1 - Accept it. It's Over

Stop thinking and talking about him. Forget about contacting or spying on him especially in the early days. No need to send him an ecard, checking his tweets and facebook updates, remembering his birthday or other anniversary dates. Cut yourself off totally from him. You can reconnect and become friends when you are really ready.

Return his things or dispose them. It is a way of assuring yourself that you have really accepted that the relationship is over. Keep the gifts, photographs and cards that you have received out of your sight and out of your mind.

Getting Over a Break Up No. 2 - Grief and Mourn

You can't lie to yourself. So cry your heart out, grief and mourn the loss. But, give yourself a specific time frame for your pity party. Don't take too long though because you may end up depressed.

To speed the process of healing your broken heart, make use of your alone time for self reflection. Start a journal and write down your thoughts and feelings. Try to understand your feelings by asking yourself questions and answering them honestly.

Getting Over a Break Up No. 3 - Move on with Your Life

Don't neglect yourself. It is not the end. You are not dead. Remember that it's only a break up. You have lost someone but you still have a family, friends, your job and a life ahead. Share your sadness with someone close. It helps release the pain.

Go out with your friends and meet new people instead of isolating yourself. But avoid using alcohol or any other toxic substance to drown your sorrow. And avoid from getting into a rebound relationship.

Watch your diet and eat healthy but don't use foods to soothe your emotions. Start a routine exercise plan even if it is just taking brisk walks in the park every morning or evening. Exercise helps change your negative emotional state.

Find things to smile about and laugh at, because it will make you feel better. Use your spare time to indulge in a new hobby or to learn something new.

Getting Over a Break Up No. 4 - Focus on What You Can Do Next

What is the worst thing that can happen from the breakup? You definitely have learned something from the relationship, about yourself and your partner. It's up to you to answer that.

Start a personal growth and self improvement plan plan. Sitting alone in your room and brooding about what could have been is a waste of time and energy. Figuring a way to avenge how he has been unfair to you may satisfy you to a certain extent but it does not benefit you in any way. Remember that he is getting on with his life and you are wasting yours away.

The best thing you can do is to work on yourself; on your personal growth. Set new goals and write an action plan to improve your life. Work on improving your personality, your character and your attitude. Success will come when you put in the efforts. To paraphrase Jim Rohn, the best revenge is your success.

Getting Over a Break Up No. 5 - Measure Your Progress

Continue to write in your journal, It is therapeutic. You are able to keep track of how you are managing your life after he is gone. You will know what the triggers are that bring memories of your relationship. And you become aware of those things that you do to get him out of your mind.

Keeping a journal allows you to see the growth you make after the break up. Write down your daily activities and your observations including the people you meet and the things you do either at work or at home. You will realize that there are actually many things that are going on around you. It will also help you notice if a new relationship is building up.

Getting Over a Break Up No. 6 - Use Hypnosis

There is another option. You can try the Healing a Broken Heart Hypnosis. You will be guided to relax, release the pain and rebuild your sense of worthiness.

Getting Over a Break Up No. 7 - Seek Counseling

If all else fails, consult a relationship expert. You know you need one if you have developed suicidal tendencies.

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