Friendship is about caring for one another. It creates balance and abundance in life.

Your quality of life will improve when you spend time with people you care and love. It takes constant time and effort for it to flourish.

People who care for each other think alike. They develop the same beliefs and constantly challenge each other to move ahead in life.

The relationship starts when one person acts amiably. It is further developed when they find common interests and become supportive toward each other.

They start to enjoy each other's company and spend a lot of time hanging out together.

Some friends remain for a lifetime, others depart from our life.

Conflicts are common in any type of relationships. Relationships can end due to various reasons.

• Natural growth and change process.

Everyday is a new day. Living means changing. It is only natural.

Each one of us changes. People change and circumstances are altered. Change is growth and is necessary.

Moving away or growing apart can change a person's view. New associations and environment can affect her priorities and values.

Common area of interest shifts as time goes by. New interest develops. New surroundings create new influence.

Everyone make new acquaintances as she advances through life. As she reaches maturity, she outgrows her old companion.

Neglect will naturally seep in. Without attention, the old relationship will wither.

Whatever happens, accept that change is inevitable.

If you still want to stay in touch write a letter or send greeting cards or post cards. Let them know that you are thinking of them. To maintain the relationship, continue to practice little kindness and courtesies.

• Lost of trust.

People are sensitive. When she confides to you in private, keep it in confidence.

Trust, when dishonored, can ruin the best relationship.

Be loyal to her. Refuse the tendency to betray. A relationship without trust is of no value.

It will die a sudden death.

• Poor communication.

Effective listening is part of communication. As people spend more time with each other, they take things for granted.

They listen without hearing the message. They start to give orders.

Speak in kind words. Try to understand. If she who does not want to listen and is not supportive about your efforts, she has no place in your life.

You should also listen to her opinions and ideas. Use them as feedback. Her opinions are what she sees in you and indicate her feelings toward your actions.

• Trying to change the other person.

A true friend is someone who knows all about you and still like you.

But when you try to work on her, you create resistance.

You cannot change anyone even if you argue or use the emotional approach. It is better to work on yourself.

Become a resource for change instead. Inspire your companion by having confidence in yourself. What you do affect your friend.

You can influence others subtly and gradually by your examples and the way you project yourself.

Inspire your friends by accomplishing great things through discipline and perseverance.

Allow your friend to be the way she is. Maintain your compassion about her weakness.

• Frustration due to unmet expectations.

Frustration happens because of unmet expectations.

Each individual has her values based on upbringing, personality, the social mirror and so on.

During the early stage, you need to understand each other's expectations. Do not assume that it is understood.

An understanding is vital. Knowing what to expect will prevent disagreement, frustration and disappointment.

• Lack of space.

If you allow one person to become your focus of attention, you are actually suffocating your relationship.

Your attachment to that person at the expense of everything and everyone else then becomes an obsession.

True friendship allows each person to have his own space. Refuse to allow your fear of rejection and abandonment to get in your way.

Do not despair when your relationship dwindles.

Losing your companion can provide its own special meaning. Do not allow it to destroy you emotionally.

Some people do not have to remain in your life. Let go if the relationship is holding you back.

Spend less time with people who drain your energy. And let go of those who engage you in activities that conflict with your values.

If you put in the love and support into your relationship, your value will continue to impact her life even after you have parted.

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