The Feeling of Disappointment

The feeling of disappointment is a destructive emotion because it makes you lose hope and feel defeated and discouraged. You will also feel like a failure.

This emotion is felt when you have high hopes and expectations on yourself, someone or something and it did not materialize. If you allow yourself to continue feeling disillusioned and disheartened you will give up, quit and won't try again.

This is one of the reasons why people refuse to set their personal goals. They fear the feeling of disappointment. They may have failed once and it was such a letdown that they try to avoid feeling disappointed again.

Some people think that if you don't want to feel disenchanted and thwarted, then don't have high hopes. What they don't understand is that if they expect little, they'll receive little. On top of that, they don't understand that hope alone is not enough. They must expect and believe that they can do what they set out to do. Then they must take massive, constructive and consistent action.

Does that mean that they won't fail? Yes, even if the outcome turn out differently because it's not a failure but a feedback. It's either something better or something that they can use to learn, make corrections, move on and try another strategy.

When you set out to do something, you should develop your mental strength. There is so much negativity and pessimism around that if you don't have the right state of mind you will be pulled by the force.

People who think positive and are optimistic still do get frustrated or stymied every now and then when there are challenges and obstacles. But they get up fast, think through, find solutions and move on.

Your mind is producing mental images and thoughts all the time. You imagine and visualize things all the time but it's on automatic or out of your conscious awareness.

Use this inbuilt tool that you own to your advantage. At least twice a day, sit still, relax your body and mind and create mental pictures of what you want to experience, do, feel and have. If you consistently do this, your mind will accept the mental images as true and you will gradually experience what you have been imagining.

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Accept your setback as a stepping stone and another one of the steps on the path to success. It is one of the experiences and events in your life that you have to face in moving toward a desired goal.

Cultivate an attitude of positive expectancy and put your hopes high on the future. Learn from your mistakes and set out your sail again. Regard what has happened as an experiment.

Refuse to allow your feeling of disappointment to distort your evaluations and stop yourself from trying. You may have missed out on it this time. But do not allow it to let you down and give up on yourself. Right thinking will allow you to combat the feeling of disappointment and negativity surrounding you.

Analyze your situation and look for different ways of doing things. You may have to make changes to your personality, attitude or your habitual ways of solving problems. Change your direction, approach, habits and patterns of thoughts to enable you to produce different results. If you keep on thinking and doing the same things you will get the same outcome.

With right thinking and taking proactive actions, you will heal the pain of defeat and bad experiences. Keep on going and totally engage your body, your mind and with others and trust yourself that you will get there.

You may have set an unrealistic goal that was out of your reach. Examine it again and start planning a new and reasonable one. Nothing is impossible if you can think of it or someone else has done it.

An example of being unrealistic is if you set out to become a millionaire in the next 12 months when you are now being employed and working 40 hours a week and earning forty thousand a year and you spend the rest of your spare time watching television.

Your lack of success may have been caused due to lack of knowledge, experience and skills. Increase your chances of getting better results through reading and learning from others who have succeeded.

It may take hundreds or thousands of hours, efforts, preparation, study and practice to get it right. With persistence you will gain enough skills, increases your knowledge and obtain the result that you desire.

If you are feeling dejected, go out and meet positive, optimistic and happy people. They have good vibes and energy and positive influence. Avoid those who are dissatisfied and embittered with life and people. They are going to disappoint you further with their sob stories. You don't need that or them.

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