Feeling lost happens. You can find your way out if you want to.

Feeling lost makes one suffer emotional and mental pain. You get this unhappy and out of sorts feeling. There's a lot of internal confusion going on.

Most times you feel disconnected from the world and people. You don't know where you're heading. You begin to wonder whether what you've been doing is worth it. You lose faith. Sometimes you don't know what's wrong or right anymore.

There are various reasons that can cause the feeling of isolation. It can happen after you face a big disappointment in your life. Not getting what you want can make you feel miserable. Lack of personal growth and progress can cause frustrations. Having to compromise your personal values and rules can be upsetting.

How do you overcome feeling lost and confused?

• Self-examination.

You have to do it. You have to look inside and ask yourself what it is that you aren't facing or accepting? You need to understand why you think, feel and act the way you do.

Write down your thoughts. Break them apart. It helps you see things clearer and make you understand. Once you do comprehend, you can then get your life back in order.

• Change your focus.

Things can go wrong or you may have been let down. The more you give your attention to it, the worst you will feel.

You may not have been directly responsible for whatever has happened. But you have control over what you want to experience next. If happiness is what you seek to achieve, then you have to think and do everything that you can to move towards it. It could mean doing something that you don't normally do.

You must keep reminding yourself that your mind holds great power. If you deliberately command and direct it, the mind will follow your orders.

• Sleep on it.

Instead of tossing and turning in bed all night worrying, try to sleep on it. Maybe you need several nights of sleeping on it to see things in a different light.

Let go off your concerns. Tell yourself that you are releasing them to the universe. Have faith that you will get some answers.

• Talk to someone and listen.

Avoid anyone who is equally feeling lost as you are. You won't benefit from the interaction. Seek someone who is involved with life.

Pay attention and listen with an open heart and mind. Sometimes a casual remark can change how you have perceived things.

• Remember your dreams and goals.

One of the reasons to have a long list of your life goals is to keep you working and moving towards them. You can't get swayed away for long and feeling lost if you have dreams to achieve. There's always something else to think about and to do. You'll accept that it as a phase and a lesson that you have to learn.

So keep your goal list so that it's easier for you to get up again after a fall. Getting back on track is something that you know you must do.

When the feeling of separation pay a visit, don't drift along and allow yourself to sink deeper. Get out of the darkness by seeking for light.

The light could be the next person you talk to, a sermon, and a long walk, from reading books, seeing the suffering of others or being among nature.

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