Fear of Rejection

The fear of rejection is one of the reasons why men don't ask women out, applicants don't do well during job interviews, and people don't ask for what they want. This fear of being rejected stop people from doing something because they believe that they are not good enough. It creates limitations and hinders them from asking and receiving.

Most people don't like to be turned down and to hear the word "No" so they'd rather not ask. Some people feel humiliated if their requests are declined. They take it personally and some feel that they shouldn't have asked in the first place. Most people's self esteem decline if they receive a few rejections in life. They'll just stop trying after that.

"I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat." - Sylvester Stallone

How to Eliminate the Fear of Rejection

Set your own standards in advance.

Some people use timidity and shyness as their disguise for the fear of being snub. Refuse to depend on other people's approval. You do not have to readily agree with other people's opinions. Be true to yourself and have respect for your own ideas and worth.

Be prepared to accept refusals.

When you ask for anything, there is a possibility of being refused and rejected. Accept rejections cheerfully. Then ask differently or ask someone else. Acquire mental toughness so that you can accept criticisms and letdowns and yet able to function effectively.

Acquire the right attitude.

When a person turns you down, view that situation from a different perspective instead of looking at it as a failure. If you associate it with insult and denial, you are putting stress into your life. Develop optimism and trust that everything will be OK. Remind yourself that you will not allow the denial to carry over to another day. Learn to feel good about yourself.

Improve your influence and persuasion skill.

You can improve your skills by using the right language and carefully chosen words. Mastering relationship skill and nonverbal communication will affect your power to influence and persuade others.

Learn more on human behavior.

One of the knowledge that will help you is being able to know that people have positive intentions behind their rejections. Knowing that help you discover why he reacts the way he does toward you.

Treat people well.

People respond positively to you if you treat them well. Show kindness, patience and compassion toward everyone. They will in return offer you warmth and friendliness.

Get curious about your fear.

How do you know for certain that you will get the cold shoulder? Become curious about your fear and take action with the hope to unveil what is in store if you were to do the thing that you fear.

Act as if you have no fear of rejection.

Act as if you are going to succeed. Dare to go forward and face the uncertainty. If you act as if you are fearless of rejections, your feelings will catch up. Keep practicing and "acting as if" over and over again until it becomes a reality.

Use hypnosis.

This hypnosis session will help you break free of the attitudes that are holding you back. You will build your self belief and crush the negative emotions related to rejection. It'll give you the strength and confidence you need to tackle situations and approach people with a positive attitude and increase your self esteem.