Divorce is the legal end of a marriage. It is also the beginning of a new life

Feeling rejected, unworthy, angry and empty are among the emotions accompanying a divorce.

A person's self-esteem will shatter and her self-confidence shaken after the end of her marriage.

The period she takes to recover from mourning the loss of the attachment to the relationship varies from a short period to several years. It depends on the decisions she makes after the separation.

It does not matter what the causes were and who was at fault, the stress may seem unbearable. If she allows it to overwhelm her life, she may become self-destructive.

How to start over after a divorce and build a new life of growth and change?

• Pick up the pieces and rebuild your self-esteem.

Take time to reflect and reconstruct your shattered esteem and image. Pay attention to your appearance and thinking patterns. Explore and create new goals and utilize your full potential.

Your marriage could have restricted and demanded a lot from you. You may have forgotten your own desires.

This is the time to bounce back and become stronger, create a new identity and personality and go after the dream that you have always wanted.

• Find comfort and companionship from your network of friends.

Connect with people who are supportive and associate with those who can help you grow and become a better person.

With your failed marriage you may lose some friends. Make new ones and gain back your balance.

Avoid getting involved in romantic relationship in the early stage. It might just be a rebound to fill in the void and loneliness.

Remarrying immediately is not the solution. You might face the risk of another divorce lurking in the near future.

• Lead a full and stimulating life.

Freedom comes with divorce. It opens us several avenues for you to choose. This is your chance to socialize, to try something new and to pursue the things you have wanted to achieve. Develop and enhance your skills and look ahead to a stimulating life.

Start your life over with new activities. Start anything that makes you feel good about yourself.

Think about what your want that will make you happy. Think positive, optimistically and constructively. Get going.

What is the worst thing that can happen when your marriage ends?

All is not lost. Divorce is simply one of life lessons about relationship and marriage.

You are gaining something else from this new beginning. Another chance to start all over again one day at a time.

A chance to make your own decisions without seeking approval from others. A chance for a fresh start.

Do not fear mistakes. Deal with challenges and dare to get back up when are knocked down.

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