"Never complain and never explain." - Benjamin Disraeli

Everyday, there are so many issues to complain about. But you can tell a smart person from another by looking at what he does when he is dissatisfied about a certain situation or toward someone.

He will look at himself to see if he has contributed to his discontent or unhappiness. If he finds one, he puts his energy in doing something to change either the situation or himself.

A whiner would express his dissatisfaction and show his protest by carping about how others mistreat him and how things should be.

It is true that a certain issue might need to be highlighted and given feedback. Before you criticize and whine, understand the real situation. Why not study the matter thoroughly. Question yourself first to look for options and to open your mind to more choices.

Instances do arise when a person's attitude would improve if he's given a little nudge. Don't nag and gripe. Have respect for his feelings and do it tactfully. Learn to communicate effectively.

The way to live a happy life and have a peace of mind is avoiding the temptation to whine at anything that does not meet your expectations. If something or someone interfere with your happiness and you can't do anything about them, avoid or remove the person or situation from your life.

Bear in mind that whatever you see or feel is your perception of things. They are not necessarily accurate. By the law of attraction, you pull towards you the people and situations that harmonize with your thoughts. It makes sense then to focus on the kind of people and circumstances you wish to experience to bring harmony in your life.

If your goal is to achieve personal growth and success, concentrate on things that would make a difference to yourself and those you care.

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