Be A Happy Person

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People struggle through life in order to achieve the ultimate goal. This ultimate goal varies from one person to another. To some people being super rich and famous is the ultimate goal. To others it is following their passion. Others may argue that it is finding true love. At the end of the day, all these perceptions boil down to one thing; happiness. Everybody just wants to be happy in life. However, there are those who find it hard to be happy due to various reasons. Over the years people have downplayed the importance of being happy. Some even go as far as declaring that they don’t have time to be happy. These people do not realize how being a happy person affect their lives. Here are five reasons why you should be a happy person.

There is a lot to be thankful for

Most people walk around sad without realizing how much they should be thankful for. Most people have good families that care about them, good jobs that pays their bills, good health and yet they still feel sad. One should stop looking at what they don’t have and be grateful for what they do have because they have more than other people would wish for.

Happiness Increases Productivity

Happy people tend to be more productive in their respective careers or endeavors. Happiness gives one a good attitude towards everything and allows them to perform tasks with gusto. Sad people spend most of their times complaining about everything and end up doing less to none in the long run. Happiness makes a person to be self-driven and motivated towards achieving one’s goals.

To build better relationships

Happy people have better relationships with others. People are generally attracted to happy individuals and therefore, they make friends easily. Happy people have more friends and fewer enemies. Happy people also have better personal relationships with their partners. Sad people are tiresome to be around since they have a dull aura around them. It is for these reasons that people avoid them in favor of happier people.

Happiness is healthy

Happiness has a positive impact on one’s health. This fact is evident in the saying, ”laughter is the best medicine”. Being happy and having more laughter in one’s life improves the body immune system making one to be less prone to diseases. Even doctors recommend happiness or laughter as a way of increasing one’s lifespan.

You are alive!

Hundreds of people die daily due to one reason or another. The fact that you are alive and kicking today is enough reason to be happy.  Many people go to bed at night and don’t live to see the next day. Life is precious and should therefore be appreciated. Smile, be happy and enjoy the sunlight while being grateful to be alive.

Conclusion

Happiness is not a destination but a journey. Most people assume that when they get a certain thing or reach a certain level of achievement, they will be happy. Being happy is a choice. One can start being happy whenever they want to. Choose to be a happy person today.

PersonalAssistant
Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.
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18 Things You Can Do When You’re Feeling Blue

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Everyone has those down moments, when they’re stuck in the muck and can’t quite get out. If you’re feeling blue, try one of these (or all of them!) to help you get back to happy.

  1. Smile. It sounds stupid, but your brain connects smiling to happy feel-good hormones, and your brain can’t tell that you’re lying.
  1. Go for a walk. Your brain connects physical movement to endorphins, which raise your mood. Plus you can see pretty things.
  1. Call a friend. You can catch up and take your mind off things.
  1. Do something for a family member. Doing something for others, without expecting anything in return, boosts your mood (and takes your mind off things).

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  1. Splurge (a little). Go buy some ice cream, or buy a DVD, or a shirt that’s on sale that you want. Don’t go overboard, but sometimes treating ourselves helps.
  1. Cry. Yep, just let it out. Your emotions will feel spent soon afterwards, and you can go back to “normal.”
  1. Cook. Feeding your body feeds your mind, too. When you put quality food into your body, the chemical composition changes to make you healthier.
  1. Take a nap. Don’t go overboard with this. Just take a nap because sometimes, when we’re tired, it makes us less than happy.
  1. Read. Even if you’re not a big reader, pick up something (even a blog) and just read for 20-30 minutes. Don’t read anything that amplifies negative emotions, though.
  1. Journal. Write in a journal, get it all out, and focus more on following your thoughts than making it perfect or well written. This free writing can help you “brain dump,” so you feel less burdened by your thoughts.
  1. Swim. If you don’t know how to swim, maybe skip this step. Floating in water, whether a pool, hot tub, or even a bath tub, is relaxing and your body will appreciate the relief from constant gravity.
  1. Put on a movie. Or go out and see a movie. Sometimes, escapism is the best bet.
  1. Pamper yourself. If you want to paint your nails, get a hair cut, have a facial, have a massage, etc., pamper yourself (within budget).
  1. Take a sick day. Don’t abuse this one, either. But some days, work is just too much to face on top of everything else you got going on.
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Two Young Women Readin In Park At Sunset

  1. Watch cat videos. Who isn’t cheered up by a bunch of adorable cat videos on YouTube?
  1. Play with your pets. Or borrow someone else’s. Pets have been proven to reduce stress and increase happiness.
  1. Meditate. Even if you’ve never done it before, try sitting in a quiet room with your eyes closed for 10 minutes. Just focus on breathing and don’t focus on any one specific thought.
  1. Feel it. Whatever you’re feeling, let it happen. Stop trying to fight it, and stop trying to run from it; it always catches up.
PersonalAssistant
Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.
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5 Ways to Be Successful in Life (That Don’t Have to Do With Money)

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The majority of us are raised to believe that success means a good job, a nice paycheck, a fancy house, a fast car, a beautiful wife, and 3 kids you can barely stand (kidding!). What we don’t ever consider is that success looks different for everyone. What I think is important isn’t what you think is important, and we don’t have to look like the traditional mold (or we can, that’s our right!). Here are a few ideas of what success looks like for a variety of people I’ve had the pleasure of meeting. Maybe it will help nudge you along the right path for you.

A Huge Family 

No matter how much money you have in the bank, you can always have a big family. In fact, the more hands, the less money you might need to make because you can sell your child for slave labor (kidding!). Whatever your reason for wanting a large family, having all of your loved ones under one roof may be how you define success. Even if you’re not what people call “rich,” you feel like you are because you are loved from so many directions.

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A Career That Brings Value  

There are people who go to law school for years, are hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, and choose to work for a civil rights firm that pays them about what a teacher makes every year. Why? Because what they do matters. They’ll maybe never be able to pay off that debt, but they can rest easy knowing they’re doing work that actually makes a difference.

Creating a Much-Needed Something  

Entrepreneurs are some of the most happy and successful people we know, as long as their ideas work. They’re creating something that society needs – something that the Big Businesses out there don’t provide, and they are happy because of it. Even if the idea never takes off, or they never get rich, they’re happy working for themselves and for something they believe in.

Traveling the World 

Can you imagine that there are people who forego a nice, secure house and paycheck to live out of a backpack while hopping around the globe? Not many people can do this, but for those that do – that’s how they define success. They look at themselves, what they’ve done, and where they’ve gone, and they can say, “I did that, and I’m happy.” They’re not rich, they’re probably tired, but they’ve got so many amazing stories.

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Giving it All Away 

You’ve probably read stories about old millionaires dying and leaving all their riches to a charity. Can you imagine? Some people think of that as a darn shame, but for that person, that may be the sign of success. To have so much money at the end of life to say, “Here, take it.” What an amazing life that would be, and what a great gift that person would give.

PersonalAssistant
Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.
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5 Metrics Used to Define Happiness

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You may be thinking, “I think I’m pretty happy, but how do I know?” Well, if you’re asking that question, odds are you’re not 100% happy – but who is? Here are 5 ways to measure your happiness, and take stock of how happy and successful you are in life.

Security

For some people, this means money or a great job. For others it means a strong relationship or situation that is familiar to them and not likely to change a whole lot. Whatever it means to you, focus on that and grade your situation in terms of how secure you feel. The higher your security score, the happier you probably are.

Romance

While some people claim they don’t need anyone to be happy, and that may be true, odds are that having a love interest in your life (that is secure) will up your happiness factor dramatically. You could even have a romantic interest in someone who doesn’t even know you exist, and it could increase (or decrease) your happiness. Take stock of your love life, and see if that is a source of happiness or unhappiness in your life – and change it if you’re not happy with that.

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Health 

Health has one of the biggest impacts on happiness, aside from romantic love. Think about it: Could you be totally happy if you were constantly in pain, or terrified that death loomed just over your head? People who are healthier are happier, and people who are happier are healthier. It’s sort of a “chicken and the egg” argument – we aren’t sure which situation creates the other, but they are entirely connected. So feed yourself good food, exercise frequently, and smile more. Your health and happiness depend on it.

Value 

People who believe they are providing a value to others, whether in the form of money, time, expertise, love, etc. feel that they are happier. If you feel valued for whatever you have to offer the world, you’re probably happier. Take a moment to reflect on what value you bring, and what you would want to add if you could. If you don’t feel valued enough, think about what you have to offer, and offer it! Volunteer, help a friend, spend more time with your kids, whatever it is that you know will make an impact on someone’s life.

Time  

People who feel rushed, stressed, too busy with work or family, and feel they have no time to themselves feel the least happy. Having time to do the things you love to do is a sign of true happiness, and it’s reflected in the amount of effort someone puts into making time. Take a minute to consider how much time you set aside for yourself, or for your whole family, and decide if you’re happy with that amount. If you’re not, don’t just say, “Oh I’m too busy.” Physically carve out or schedule that time in for yourself, because the happiness of yourself and others can’t wait.

PersonalAssistant
Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.

Tip: Be Happy by Letting Yourself be Sad

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You’re probably thinking, “That’s crazy! Sad is the opposite of happy!” and you’re right. But just because you’re sad doesn’t mean you’ll never be happy again right? Here are a few ways that being sad can actually help you be happier.

Letting Yourself Cry 

When you feel an intense (unhappy) emotion, let yourself feel it, rather than pushing it away. When you let that feel sort of wash over you, without entirely controlling your whole life, you’re essentially telling your body, “We are human, and humans feel a range of emotions.” When you don’t let yourself express your sadness (or any other supposed “negative” emotion), you deny your body that release, and it will internalize it, making you hold in that bad energy that can make you sick and generally much more unhappy.

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Crying beautiful woman photo

 

Grief Shows You a Lot 

Are you sad because a relationship ended or you lost a loved one? By being sad, you’re allowing yourself to grieve properly, and to say that this person or this relationship was really important to me, and I’m sad it’s gone. But it also shows you that you value that sort of relationship, or that sort of person, and you can cherish what those things did for you as a person. It may also show you things that you wish you could have changed, that maybe you can change the next time around. Maybe you wish you had said, “I love you” more, and now you can start saying it to the people who truly care. Grow from what makes you sad to make your life happier moving forward.

Happy = Healthy 

If you internalize your sadness and “negative” emotions, you’re telling your body to store all of that bad juju. That bad juju keeps growing and growing because it doesn’t have an outlet, and you can’t get over the sadness (or anger, or whatever). Then, it’s a downward spiral into emotions you can’t control, which in turn affect your outlook on life and your health. You can’t be healthy and be sad all the time – it just doesn’t work that way. You can’t be happy when you’re sad all the time. So let it out. Tell someone if you’re sad, work through it somehow, and get it out. Even if you don’t feel like talking about it, releasing some of that burden can help you lighten the load and the sun can come back in.

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Happy active family jumping in green field against blue sky. Summer vacation concept

Sadness is Strength 

People who have been through the most often are the strongest people you know. Even when they’ve experienced incredible sadness, they come out victorious on the other side. Let this be a lesson for your life; no matter what events knock you down, you can grow from them. Sadness is something that tends to show us what is most important in life, and show us what we don’t want to feel again. Don’t get stuck in it; grow from it, and make your life better because you’ve been through it.

PersonalAssistant
Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.