5 Ways To Boost Your Self Confidence

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Every single person has that one very self-confident friend or person that they admire a lot. Self-confident people light up the world. Everybody wants to be near or around them. They are very comfortable in their own skin and they live their lives without caring what other people think about them. Who wouldn’t want to be like that? In our society today, there are millions of people who are struggling with self-confidence issues. However, working towards being a completely self-confident person is not rocket science. Here are five simple ways to boost ones self-confidence and enable them to live life to the fullest.

Turn negative thoughts to positive thoughts

The first step is to work on oneself. Most people who lack self-confidence are usually consumed with negative thoughts which ruin how they perceive themselves. Less confident people think that they cannot amount to anything or they cannot accomplish a certain task. These thoughts eventually lead to depression. One must first of all fight these thoughts and turn them into positive thoughts. Belief in ones strengths and abilities is a huge step towards complete self-confidence.

Personal grooming

Looking good on the outside translates to feeling good on the inside. Most people feel less confident because of the way they look or dress. A simple shower in the morning can leave one feeling fresh and confident throughout the day. One should invest in a wardrobe that is comfortable and leaves them feeling at ease. A good shave for men and good cologne for both men and women can lighten up ones mood and hence, elevate their self-confidence.

Exercise

Exercise plays a big role in self-confidence. People who exercise regularly are more self-confident than those who don’t. Exercise refreshes ones body making them feel good on the inside which eventually shows on the outside. Regular exercise makes one to be comfortable with their body. One gets to understand how their body works and therefore appreciate themselves even more. It is important to choose an exercise routine that fits ones schedule and lifestyle.

Associate yourself with positive people.

Self-confidence can be obtained through association with other self-confident people. Less confident people need to associate themselves with positive people who add value to their lives such as good friends and family. They can also associate with co-workers or other peers who are focused and working towards a meaningful life. All the negative people from the past and the memories that come with them should be blocked out as one focuses on making new positive memories.

Action

Finally, act the part. In order to complete the self-confidence revolution, one should start acting self-confident. When it comes to acting self-confident, things like posture, a smile and speaking clearly come to play. One should always wear a smile while networking with other people in order to ease tension and make one appear more self-confident to the other person. Also, speaking out clearly and being articulate is as a good show of self-confidence.

Conclusion

It is clear that self-confidence begins with how a person feels in the inside and then it translates to the outside and how they relate to others. It is important for people to understand themselves and identify the reasons as to why their self-confidence is low. This will enable them to know which areas to work on in order to ensure they grow into self-confident people.

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Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.
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How To Live A Stress-Free Life

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Stress is a very common thing in the 21st century. Nearly every single person on the planet experiences stress at a certain point in their lives. This means that stress is a global pandemic. The internet is full of publications on how to cope with stress and many writers have made fortunes out of writing self-help books on stress management. More and more individuals are seeking the help of psychiatrists to help them cope with stress in their daily lives. However, there are simple non-strenuous steps that one can follow in order to keep stress at bay.

Identify the trigger

First and foremost, one should identify what triggers their stress. It helps to list down all the things that causes one to be stressed. Listing these situations down helps one to determine the best way to deal with them before they get out of hand.

One thing at a time

Another way to be stress-free is to avoid juggling multiple tasks at once. Heavy multitasking is a major cause of stress. Try doing one thing at a time. Multitasking causes people to lose focus on what they are doing and also lose focus on what is important. It is important for one to prioritize their work and then focus on one task at a time.

De-clutter Schedule

Multitasking goes hand in hand with a cluttered schedule. A hectic schedule is a guaranteed trigger for stress. Not everything that is to be done is worth doing. Sometimes it is okay not to do everything. One should de-clutter their schedule by picking only what is mandatory and dropping tasks that are of less importannce. People should learn to allocate time for rest in their schedule to allow them a chance to recover their energy and also relax the mind.

Stay Healthy

A healthy body is a stress-free body. Being healthy does not necessarily mean running a hundred miles a day, taking yoga classes and going to the gym daily. Being healthy can be as simple as picking up a healthy habit every month. Simple healthy habits can include things like drinking lots of water during the day, eating a fruit after every meal or taking a 20min stroll daily after work.

Have Fun

Lastly, try to have fun. Life is too short for one to go through it sulking without having any fun. Having fun lightens one mood and makes them feel happier and better about themselves. This feeling in turn gives them a positive attitude when it comes to tackling their problems. It is easy to have simple fun moments on a daily basis. Playing with children is a good way to have fun. Children are a good source of joy and playing with them makes one feel rejuvenated. Another fun thing to do is playing board games. Board games are a good way to bond with children, family or peers and make delightful memories.

Conclusion

Stress can be detrimental to a person health if not managed properly and on time. People should ensure they find ways to reduce their stress levels in order to live happier lives. Sometimes stress can be inevitable. It is important for one to practice these simple routines in their daily lives in order to reduce their stress levels.

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Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.
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5 Things That Should Be On Your Bucket List

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It is easy to breeze through life without any goals or accomplishments. But where is the fun in that? That is the recipe for a wasted life, a beautiful gift thrown in the gutter. Each and every person has a set of goals or accomplishment that they want to accomplish before they cross over to the afterlife. This is basically the concept of a bucket list. However, there are too many exciting things in this world that deserve a place in one’s bucket list and  the problem comes in when deciding which ones are worth it and which ones are not. Here are 5 simple but great experiences that should be in one’s bucket list.

Learn a Foreign Language

There are so many different languages in the world.  Learning a new language from scratch as an adult can be challenging. This is a perfect task for a bucket list. An English speaker from the UK can choose to learn another language like Spanish or pick a strange native language from Africa such a Swahili or Zulu. Learning such a language will definitely set one apart from their peers and leave one feeling accomplished. It can also be an added advantage in one’s resume.

Fall in love.

This is a must for each and every person. No person should leave this world without experiencing the exhilarating feeling that is love. Love is regarded as the best feeling in the world. Love makes one feel like a new person. Love can soften even the coldest of heart. Millions of songs have been written about love or lovers. Numerous films have been made on love with the greatest film of all time, The Titanic, being a masterpiece of the greatest love the world has ever seen.

Attend a Live Music Event

Music is one of the biggest forces of the world. Every single person has a playlist that they listen to regularly depending on their mood. It is literally impossible to live without music. However, when it comes to music, nothing beats listening to it live as it is performed by the artist. It is one of the most thrilling experiences ever. Live music takes one’s emotions to a whole new level. One is able to understand the artist and feel the inspiration behind their music. Through live music, the audience becomes one with the artist.

Visit One of the Wonders of the World

The eight wonders of the world have been part of history since time immemorial. Each wonder has a long, exciting story behind its inception. Visiting these sites gives one a chance to bask in their ambiance and be part of history. So, pack a bag, take a flight and go visit the pyramids of Egypt. Go and be amazed by their structure and size, learn about their history and bear witness to the hieroglyphs up-close.

Dance in the Rain

People walk around with huge umbrellas during the rainy seasons to avoid getting soaked wet and catching pneumonia. However, on just one occasion, throw caution to the wind and embrace the rain. Feel the cold water as it runs from head to toe. Don’t just walk in the rain, hum a favorite tune and dance in it. Forget about your worries and just enjoy the moment.

Conclusion

More and more people are embracing the concept of having a bucket list. It is one way of ensuring one gets the most out of life. Despite the many amazing thing that one can include in their bucket list, it is advisable to only choose those that are within ones means and capabilities. Pretty much every single person every can dance in the rain.

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Hi, I’m Steven.
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Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.
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Happiness is a Road, Not a Destination

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You may have different beliefs on what is more important in life: the ends or the means. I believe that all that matters in life is the means by which you get to the end, because we all get to the end at some point. Why rush it? The same applies to happiness – some people see it as destination (end), when I see it as the road (means).

Speed Bumps 

No matter how happy you are at any given time, no matter how much you think you’ve finally reached your destination – happiness – you will encounter road blocks and speed bumps at some point. Whether it’s the death of a loved one, a job change, a move, a crazy busy period in your life, etc., something will step in the way of your happiness. Therefore, happiness is not the end – if it was, nothing could get in the way. Happiness is the road because it’s a constant effort to keep on trucking, even when those speed bumps are trying to knock your tires off.

Running Out of Gas  

There are just some times in life where you’re dog tired. Crap keeps piling up, you’ve had a bad couple of days, weeks, or months, and you’re just plain sick of it. You don’t feel like fighting it – you just want to pull over and take a rest. Maybe you’ve entirely run out of gas, so even if you wanted to get back on the road you’re kinda stuck. Now, if happiness was the destination, you wouldn’t have to worry about this kind of stuff. You’d just relax until your tank was full, right? Happiness is the road, because traveling is long and hard and you’re gonna need to refill your tank. Take care of yourself, so you can keep trucking on the road that is happiness.

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Passengers  

It doesn’t matter how fast you go on the road, you’re always going to have passengers. Sometimes they’re good passengers, who rock out with you on the best musical road trip ever, and sometimes you want to open their door and push them out doing 80. The people make all the difference, and you can pick people up along the way and drop off some people if you can. If happiness was the destination, the people who made you happiest would already be there, without that shared history. But because happiness is the road, you share your experiences and you have people that shape the trip into something truly memorable.

Speed Traps  

Of course you want to get where you’re going, and you want to get there quickly. Just when you think you’re really making good time, you see those flashing lights in the rearview. There are people that will always try to kill your vibe – and pull you over to let you know that your path to happiness is just not going to work. If happiness was a destination, nobody could interfere. But it’s the road, so remember that people will always try to slow you don’t. Don’t pull over.

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Hi, I’m Steven.
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Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.

How Happiness Became the Joneses’ Next Big Thing

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It seems like everywhere you look, happiness is something that you MUST have. “Money can’t buy happiness, but it can buy ___,” or “Find happiness here!” or multiple blog posts about the easiest way to be happy in life. It’s everywhere! You may read these posts or advertisements, or see books on the shelf and think, “I’m not happy yet! I need to change that!” I’m here to tell you that happiness is not something you need to acquire right now, like that 65” wifi TV or the 6 speedsnowblower the Joneses have next door. Happiness is not something to be acquired, it’s something to be earned.

Money Can’t Buy You Love  

We all know money can’t buy us happiness, even though material possession can definitely make us happy. We also know that some of the richest people are the loneliest because money can’t give you people who love you. But lately, it seems that happiness is the latest hot seller; ads, books, TV shows, blogs, etc. all promise you the most solutions to your happiness problems. In reality, though, what one person says about happiness is not what’s going to be tailor-made for your life and your happiness. In the end, no amount of self help books or seminars about happiness can help you change your situations – only you can.

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Everyone’s Doing It 

It seems like everywhere you look, people are quitting their jobs to start up amazing nonprofits and live in tiny homes, or people are leaving their dead end marriages for the hottie they met on vacation. All in the name of happiness. Of course they’re happy! But doesn’t it make you feel a little icky inside, worried that you’ll never find your happiness? In this way, the search for happiness has become a contest, something we check in with all of our friends to see who is doing the most to gain more happiness, or who is living our “happy dream.” Just like keeping up with the Joneses, keeping up with our happiness goals has become a competition.

Happiness Isn’t Instant 

Despite what everything you’re reading, seeing, and hearing says – happiness does not come overnight, with one single decision. Happiness is a daily choice, made with difficult options and plain old hard work. What makes you happy isn’t going to be easy, and what comes easy isn’t going to make you happy. When someone says they know the one thing you should do to make yourself happier right now, keep scrolling, put down the book, turn off the TV, and walk away. Happiness is individually created, and individually owned. Nobody can mass produce happiness. They can maybe give you some points, but don’t ever expect the same results as the next person. Your happiness is your responsibility, and it takes time. If you’re not patient, you won’t ever be entirely happy. You’ve heard the phrase, “The best things come to those that wait,” and happiness is truly no different.

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Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.

How Success and Happiness Affect Each Other

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You know that feeling when you’ve really made it? Where you feel like you’ve made a difference, established yourself in a job or career that makes you happy? Plus it pays the bills? Maybe you don’t, but it’s something that most of us aim for, right? If you’re wondering if you have to be successful to be happy, here is why the two are often so interchangeable in our world today.

Money Can Buy Happiness 

Even if you’re shaking your head, money does buy us a modicum of happiness. It buys us a secure roof over our heads, great food on the table, lets us live our dreams (having kids, traveling the world, saving for retirement, etc.), and gives us a little extra cushion in case something goes wrong. You know this is true, because not having money means that you’re stressed, you’re digging for change in the couch cushions, and you’re wondering when you’re going to stop feeling this way. Having a successful life – whether as an employee, investor, entrepreneur, whatever you want to be – means that you produce enough income to pay for your lifestyle. Therefore, in this case, success does equate to happiness.

Work Gives us Value  

You know that soul sucking job that you just hate? How you feel like crying whenever you walk the door? And you know that job that you fantasize about, where you love your coworkers and you do work that you love? Well, this is further proof that how we define success makes us happier. If you had that job you loved, even if it paid less than the soul sucking one you want to leave, wouldn’t you be happier? Wouldn’t you be able to come home at night and not drink 3 beers just to get over the day you had? Having work we love provide us value means that we, as humans, feel more useful, more happy, and yes, more successful.

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Happiness = Success 

Let’s flip the tables for a moment, and consider how much happiness can create success. Don’t you feel more successful when you’re happy at work? Doesn’t going to work with a good mood make you feel a little better about everything you do in a day? Being happy actually gives us more ability to become successful , as we have more energy and more desire to do the things that make us successful. This can either mean in monetary value – what we make from a job when we’re happier there – or in personal value – feeling like maybe we’re doing something really good for the company or others when we do this specific job. Happiness also changes our outlook on life. When we choose to be happy, doesn’t everything sort of fall into place? That washer that just went out is a pain, sure, but it’s an obstacle you can overcome because you’re not going to let it drag you down. Don’t let your external events define your happiness.

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Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.

Is a Technology Hiatus the Right Path to Happiness?

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Odds are, you’re reading this on your phone. Or your laptop.Or your tablet.Or your infrared eyeball scanner? Quit reading this if you’re a cyborg.

However you’re consuming this information, you’re using that same technology to consume other information – probably much less useful information. You probably check Facebook while you’re on the toilet, and your phone is probably the first thing you check when you wake up in the morning. Maybe you start to get sweaty in the palms when you can’t find your phone. Maybe the Internet goes out and you think it’s the end of the world. We’re all guilty, so don’t feel bad, but there are a few ways that breaking your addiction to technology can make you happier.

More Time

Do you spend a lot of time perusing the Internet, email, or cute YouTube cat videos (me too)? Do you look up and realize you’re late for a meeting, or you don’t even know where your children are? We’ve all had this problem, and you can lose major time when you’re not being mindful of it. For this reason, a technology hiatus can create more happiness in your life. Think about how much free time you’ll have when you’re not hunched over your device of choice, and think about how many different hobbies you can pursue when you’re not stalking your ex-boyfriends on Facebook.

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Better Relationships 

We all see it – the sad group of friends at the dinner table that are all looking down at their phones, not interacting with each other and ignoring the really mad waitress. You think, “Oh that’s so sad,” and then look down at your phone to read your newest alert. You’re just as guilty as anyone else. When you ignore the people around you to pay attention to your smart phone, you’re sacrificing really great conversation and connection to the people you love most (or haven’t even met yet). Think about all the people you could have met (including Mr. or Mrs. Right!), but you were too busy looking down at your phone to notice them from across the room. Doh!

Longer Life  

Distracted driving is the number one killer in auto accidents in the United States. It’s a real problem. Don’t even act like you’re not guilty either – you check your latest text message or email alert just like the car next to you. When you do this, you’re essentially saying, “I value this unimportant notification over my life and the safety of the vehicles around me.” We’re all real jerks, and we really need to knock it off. There are also studies indicating that people who sit at desks or hunch over tech devices day in and day out are more prone to life threatening issues, like blood clots, hypertension, obesity, stress (leading to heart attacks), and more. More and more, we are realizing that our devices are not exactly conducive to the healthiest lifestyles, and we need to change.

PersonalAssistant
Hi, I’m Steven.
And Hi, I’m Monica!
Together, we make the dynamic duo behind this website. We are a married couple living in Austin, Texas with our 3 children and 4 dogs. We met in college, and fell fast in love. Shortly after we got married 6 years ago, Monica was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer.