Being Cool, Calm and Relaxed

Being able to remain cool, calm and relaxed while under immense pressure or chaos is a sign of maturity. The person who can keep her poise has acquired self control. You can see it in her demeanor. She carries herself with an air of confidence. Sometimes it makes you wonder how she can remain in such a tranquil state when almost everyone else gets agitated so easily.

Most of us haven't developed this quality of maintaining our composure while under stress. We jump at the slightest criticism. We get distraught when we face adversities. We argue aggressively when we are in the midst of a conflict or confrontation.

It takes a lot of coaxing, either through our self talk or from others, to calm our nerves. And even when we have cooled down, we hold grudges.

"The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom." - James Allen

How to Stay Calm under Pressure

Practice these exercises and techniques regularly for lasting change.

Deep breathing

Deep breathing immediately relaxes the nerves. When you are facing a situation that tests your patience, take a few deep breaths. Inhale deeply through your nose. Feel your tummy rising and the air filling your lungs. Hold for a few seconds and breathe out through your mouth.

Practice regular nerves relaxation techniques.

Yoga is one of them. It improves your physical, psychological and spiritual being. One of the psychological benefits of regular practice is it reduces stress and heightens your sense of wellbeing. You will feel more relaxed, healthier and at peace.

Subliminal messages, self hypnosis technique and brainwave entrainment are effective methods for lasting change. All these programs guide you to breathe right, and relax, alter your brainwaves and put you in the alpha meditative state. In this altered state of mind, you can reprogram your subconscious mind with new instructions.

MindMaster is one of these programs. It is a words-and-images tool created to help you change your attitude and overwrite your false beliefs. Click on the link for a free trial of the MindMaster software

Use positive affirmation.

Affirmation works. If it hasn't, you may have done it incorrectly. For it to take effect, you should put your affirmation in the present tense, state what you want, not what you don't want to experience in your life and emotionalize your affirmation. Feel it not just verbalizing your words.

It is strongly recommended that you state your affirmation by saying "I choose to be calm in any situation" instead of "I am cool and composed." This way your mind will accept your affirmative statement because it doesn't feel that you are deceiving. It's something you choose.

Visualize it.

When you add visualization to your affirmation, you are using two of the best tools to reprogram your subconscious. You are visualizing daily but it's on default. The images or voices that pop up in your mind are those that you have been playing unconsciously.

Set a goal. For now, you desire to achieve calmness. Put yourself in a relaxed state. Then create a clear idea, a picture or a feeling of that desire. Imagine yourself poised, composed and relaxed. Fill in all the details, see it, hear it and feel it.

Repeat the visualization exercise daily and several times a day until it materializes. The best time is before you go to sleep and upon awakening.

Write it down.

Write your affirmation daily and as many times as you like. Writing imprints your goal. When you write down, visualize and affirm at the same time, you are attracting the thing you want into your life at a greater speed.