Body Language - The Non Verbal Communication

If you want to know how important body language is in your daily interaction, try to imagine losing your hearing for a day.

Your understanding on what others are saying and trying to communicate will depend a lot on your visual interpretation and ability to interpret body gestures, face expressions and eye movements.

Everyone else including you uses your body to match your verbal communication, or what you are talking about. Even without speaking a word, you can express your thoughts and emotions. Your stance and body movements have become a pattern and you are unaware and unconscious that you are doing them.

There are many clues and cues that people communicate through their everyday expressions, body postures and gestures to show what they are thinking or feeling. Some people are good at interpreting them. Some misinterpret and this can become a problem. Some aren't aware at all.

Learning how to interpret accurately the meanings associated with the body stance, hand signals, eye cues and gestures will definitely affect your influence on others and improve your social skills.

Click on this link to learn how to create a powerful nonverbal message that will support your verbal content, how to interpret and use body language to deliver the message you intend and how to project a vocal quality that matches your message.

Watch people when they talk to someone. Observe the spontaneous position of the body parts. Each movement of the body is a telltale sign of what someone is thinking.

How does he stand or move when he emphasizes on certain words? Where do his eyes move? Look at his eye movements. The eyes move when he tries to recall, imagine or making up something inside his head. Observe him when he is listening.

Studies in NLP have shown that when people lean their head to one side, they are actually listening to their self talks. When they move their heads down, they are feeling something inside.

You may need help from someone to notice your own favorite eye accessing cues, facial expressions and stance. Get someone to watch you and comment on your nonverbal behavior.

Become aware and observe yourself and your movements each time you adjust your body when you are in conversation, listening or thinking. You can also practice in front of the mirror and watch yourself.

Practice matching someone's posture, position of limbs and gestures during interaction. Then try to do the opposite. When he crosses his legs to the right, you cross yours to the left.

What you gain from this exercise of matching the other person is the ability to create rapport, a term to mean being in "sync" or being on the same wavelength as the person you are talking to. It works the opposite if you mismatch his posture and physiology. Once you have developed rapport, you can lead him without his realization to your position.

Click on this link to learn more on how to create a powerful nonverbal message that will support your verbal content, how to interpret and use body gestures to deliver the message you intend and how to project a vocal quality that matches your message.

Couples who are dating get confused and can't determine whether their partners are interested. The reason for this is because what they hear is not what they see. The other reason is that they ignore the signs that their partners are trying to convey from the gestures. By paying more attention and understanding the signs, you can avoid the confusion and doubt.

Women typically show their interests by either running their fingers through their hair or running their tongues along their lips. These are the obvious ones. Watch out for the subtle movements where their eyes are watching and where their shoulders are leaning.

When you speak to a man, look at how he stands, where he put his hands and of course the eyes are "the windows to the soul".

Knowing that people are watching you from your posture and your appearance gives you an advantage. You can get yourself prepared especially when meeting a new client or attending a job interview. You can condition your body to relax by adjusting your standing, sitting position and movements to give the good first impression.

When you are attending an interview or meeting a new person, you can guess whether he is interested in what you have to offer or say. You can tell whether he is listening or is carried away in his own thoughts. This will help you find another strategy to influence his thinking pattern to your favor.

Your ability to match him will send a message to him that you are pleasant and consistent even though he hardly knows you.

Positioning yourself in a way that he can't have a face to face conversation will make him pay more attention to your body and its gestures. You can then use this to your advantage.

Click on this link to learn more on how to create a powerful nonverbal message that will support your verbal content, how to interpret and use body language to deliver the message you intend and how to project a vocal quality that matches your verbal message.

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