Boasting is One Way of Showing Your Weakness

Excessive boasting is one of the reasons why some people are unlikable and have limited number of real friends. Don't you get irritated with this type of people who keep showing off their possessions and achievements, bragging about the influential people they know and so on?

What about you? Do you swagger and strut around in a conceited manner to flaunt your wealth? What if you not only brag but also exaggerate?

You'll not only become unpopular but will also be labeled as a swank.

Would you accept it if someone were to tell you that you are pretentious and have a problem with your ego and self esteem? Most likely you'll become defensive and think that he is envious.

But what if it was true? Can't you accept that you are a show off?

Having self confidence, knowing your strengths and being proud of your accomplishments are excellent attitudes. But you don't have to try to impress anyone especially to those people who hardly know you. Others can see who you are and what you are made of from your attitudes and personality. Just do what you are good at and the results will show.

Take a little bit extra time to examine your behavior and attitude. Ask yourself these questions:

1. What am I trying to achieve?
   
   
   
2. Am I trying to gain friends, get noticed or feel appreciated?
   
   
   
3. What do I gain from this behavior?
   
   
   
4. How do I feel after I act or talk to show and tell others of how great I am?
   
   
   
5. How did people respond when I told them of my "greatness"?
   
   
   
6. In the past years, have I made more friends and influenced others positively?
   
   
   
7. Have I really made any physical, mental, emotional or career progress?
   
   
   
8. Am I really what I claim to be?
   
   
   
9. Did I really achieve or acquire what I said I did?
   
   
   
10. Did I tell my story the way it happened?

If you are honest with yourself, you may discover some unpleasant or even embarrassing answers. That's good because now that you know the painful truth, you can make corrective actions.

What does all your boasting point out to? It shows a lack of self esteem. Unconsciously, you are seeking attention and want others to notice and admire you. Everyone else but you, are aware of it.

If you have made a fool of yourself, you just have to accept it. What's done is done. From this day on, catch yourself and snap out of that habit. You can do it if you are determined to overcome this weakness.

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