The Blame Game

Do you still blame your parents for the way your life has turned out? Other than your parents, who are you pointing your finger at?

Is the media at fault for your addictions and cravings? Is the government to be held responsible for your state of finances? Do you accuse your spouse for causing your unhappiness?

Who else is in your list of people that you feel are guilty for your lack of personal growth? And which event or incident do you point at for the things that you did or didn't do?

Why do People Blame Others?

Probably because some adults haven't really grown up.
Where they were kids and they made mistakes, they point their fingers at others to get off the hook. They got away each time and finger pointing becomes a habit.
Others may have been emotionally wounded by someone during their childhood and they carry these memories into their adulthood. They still act like they are helpless.
Some took off the habit from their role models; their parents, teachers and adults with whom they grew up with.
There are other reasons but what it comes down to is the lack of accountability. These people haven't drawn a line on when they should stop blaming and start making their own choices and decisions.

Why You Should Stop Blaming Others

Nobody is right or wrong

Everyone has her own way of thinking and doing things based on her personal values and beliefs. Instead of trying to find faults, take an in depth look at the issue with the intent to find a solution.

You are equally responsible

Blaming someone else for your personal issues shows immaturity and ignorance. Whatever you think someone has done to you in your adult life, you are equally to be blamed. You may have contributed to the undesirable things in the form of your thought or your reactions. Most likely, you were focusing on what you don't want instead of what you do want. So you get what you focus on.

It shows your emotional immaturity

Why do you think some people are labeled childish? The obvious reason is that they still act like one. When they were kids, they whined, cried and showed their temper tantrums when felt that they were mistreated. Now they still behave the same way minus the tears.

How to Stop the Blame Game

Contemplate and think through with an open mind. Notice the repeated issues or problems that have surfaced in your life in different situations and with different people. What is the common factor? Hint: You are in it all the time.
Think of what's the right thing to do next. You cannot undo the past or change someone. But you can change yourself and do something in the present so that you can experience a different future. Take control of the things that you can change. You can work on your attitude and make improvements to your way of thinking.
Let go. Don't sweat the small stuff. Some issues are not worth taken too seriously. Forgive others. Learn from the experiences and move on.

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