How Do You Know That You Are Angry?

Getting angry is a negative mental, emotional and behavioral experience.

You may vent your extreme annoyance by striking out, yelling or hurting someone. Or you would allow the anger to stew and live with the grudge for a while.

Most people who have no control over their wrath get frantic and go berserk. Revenge and vengeance fill their minds. They become delirious and release their rage by hitting, kicking, biting and screaming.

Your response by getting angry, upset and furious easily may mean that you are suffering from an emotional problem. It has developed into a reflex subconscious habit. Your quick temper is a result of your history, interpretations, beliefs, values, etc. You have stored negative emotions and experiences inside you.

Anger management tips for anger control

• Change your thinking.

When you strike out at someone it will only give you a momentary release. It is not a question of who or what is wrong. You should allow people and situation to be the way they are.

You will repeat your approach based on your stored memories to a hurtful remark or insult unless you change your thinking.

• Interrupt your anger.

The fastest way to interrupt your temper is to focus on deep relaxed breathing. Watch and feel the flow of your breathing that you have taken so much for granted.

Getting angry and stressed can distort your evaluations whereas controlled breathing clears your mind.

• Change your focus.

When you become aware of your rising anger, locate at which part of your body are you feeling the specific sensation. How is the feeling like?

Try to view yourself doing your rage. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and see how you would look like when you rant.

• Examine your personal values.

You need to seriously examine your personal values because your react emotionally to them.

What is more important to you? Is it your relationship or is it the need to be "right"?

Is showing your power more important than love and warmth? You can choose whether you want to feel angry or to remain calm and unruffled.

• Keep your distance.

Moving away from a person or situation that provoke you is not running away. It is preventing yourself from repeating your undesirable approach.

Taking a long walk will give you the time and space to look at the core of the issue. Distancing yourself will allow you to cool down.

• Give yourself a second chance.

You get angry as a quick fix of self-expression. But what does it really do to you? You have to start thinking deeply about what it is you are trying to achieve.

If you have messed up and brought that past resentment into the present it's time to clean up. Give yourself a second chance to start anew. Start from where you are and practice to become better.

People or circumstances have control over you if you allow them to cause your anxiety. It does not matter how you validate or justify your outrage.

You can choose to lash out, suppress or ignore your angry emotion. But lashing out or suppressing will bring more stress into your life.

Stress due to seething over your old grievances will cause physical related illness. Relationships with your partner, your kids, co-workers and others will suffer.

You will experience more out of life if you choose to release your anger by understanding or ignoring it. It is better to direct your energy in your self-improvement and personal growth.

Trying to work on proving that someone has done or said something unfair to you will lead to more frustrations.

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